This is my 2nd annual Liberal Arts Living blog. I hadn’t planned on this being an annual thing but I decided that since I have done a whole lot more living since my blog a year ago, I wanted to share with all of you. My only hope is that it will inspire you to get up and do something new.
Over the past year:
• I decided to publish a book; which most of you know already.
• I learned how to knit.
• I learned how to sew wool felt playthings for my kids.
• I learned how to get over my fear of singing in front of everyone.
• I have learned about adding more raw food recipes to our family food choices.
• I learned how to grow my own organic garden.
• I am learning how to play the bass; something I have said I wanted to do since high school.
• I made my first herbal tinctures.
• And most recently, my husband, 14 year old son and I decided to participate in the NH 48 Hour Film Project. We had to write, shoot, edit and complete a 5 to 7 minute mini-move with all work being done in the 48 hour period.
There are a lot of new things that are in the works for the next year but I will keep those under wraps until I actually do them. A lot of them are new for me. The ones I am most excited, as well as nervous, about are the ones where I will be out there helping other parents.
How does all of this fit into my parenting? I am living the kind of life I want my kids to live. A life not filled with “I always wanted to”s and “someday”s and certainly NOT “when the kids move out”s. What kind of example would that be for them? If I haven’t been always learning something new and actively pursuing my interests, I do fear what kind of message that would give my kids.
Would it tell my daughter that to be a stay at home mom is to be boring, or bored? Would it tell my sons that their future wives couldn’t pursue what their interests were unless it were making an income? Would it tell the kids that mom can’t start living her own life until they are out of the house?
Instead I am showing them that you can be an involved, loving parent with close relationships with your kids without smothering them or living your life vicariously through them. I am showing them that parents need to feel fulfilled and it makes them better parents. I am showing them, and go look this one up for yourselves, that the key to staying younger is to always learn something new. I could sit here and just “tell” them about all of this, but actually doing it shows them that I would know what I was talking about if I did talk to them about it.
I hope I have inspired you to get up and just go do one new thing. I don’t care what it is or how crazy it sounds! There is no excuse good enough not to. Would you do it if I told you your kid's future happiness depends on it?
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I started blogging over a year ago a little unsure of what I would blog about or where it would lead me. I had chosen the title “child-led parenting” because it really seemed to suit the kind of parent I have become over these past 14 years. Simply put, the kind of parent I am is the result of my children showing me the kind of parent I have needed to be for each one of them. I didn’t learn much from books, magazines, or other parents even; and especially not from my own parents. In fact, I learned more about how not to do things through those sources. It really wasn’t until I moved back to New England a couple of years ago that I have felt like I finally found my tribe of friends and other parents that I could not only relate to but I could learn from. So I chose the label that felt best at the time. For me, child-led described the type of parent I am perfectly. Or so I thought…
For some reason, out of pure curiosity, I decided to Google “child-led parenting” to see what kind of definitions other people use for the phrase. I was more than surprised. I read things like how so and so’s kids were bratty and spoiled because they were being raised with child-led parenting. I read so many more negative things, which I don’t care to rehash here, that it made me want to distance myself from the term.
I am not about pushing back against widely held beliefs, as you can tell by what I write about. I believe that I can best serve parents by sharing my experiences and perspectives. There are enough vocal people out there telling you what’s wrong with absolutely everything. It doesn’t feel good to me to be one of them. I would rather share what works and what feels right, and why.
It doesn’t matter that I believe if parents act like spoiled, bratty, selfish people then their kids will be that way. It doesn’t matter that I believe if parents do not show self-control, then their kids won’t either. No, what “I” believe doesn’t matter at all when it comes to labels. What matters is what people already believe. So I changed my title to “Intuitive Parenting Blog” because of what people choose to believe.
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As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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This blog is a collection of thoughts, articles and perspectives I have at any one time. While I am pretty consistent in my beliefs, life changes and evolves along with experiences. You may feel a connection with me through my writing yet I never want any of my readers to misunderstand that the connection you feel is with a perspective I have shared and not me as a person. I am continually humbled that I am able to connect with my readers, and I hope to continue to be able to for many years to come, but it doesn't make us connected in any way beyond this. If you connect with what I write and know me as an acquaintance, this in no way reflects that I have any knowledge of you, your situation in life or that I am writing with you in mind. It is merely that I have shared a human experience that most likely very many others have had has well. This also goes for anything I post on my Twitter account, Facebook Page and Facebook personal page. I wanted to make this disclaimer as clear as possible so you know that any misunderstanding you choose to have is not my responsibility.