Today, I thought I’d share what conscious living means to me and my family. For us the biggest theme of conscious living that we have been concentrating on lately is paying attention to the implications of what we buy. Not just where the dollars go but where what we buy comes from and most importantly what the ingredients are. With examining ingredients, it also encompasses how those ingredients could potentially affect our bodies.
For example, if there is a question regarding a link between the aluminum you stick under your armpits every single day, and eat in your baked goods, and Alzheimers, then I would rather be cautious and buy aluminum free baking soda and deodorant. When you have a father that died at 44 from Leukemia directly linked to benzene exposure, a mother that died from congestive heart failure at 48 when she didn’t have heart problems and kids who had an adverse reaction to an immunization, you tend to look at things a little more cautiously.
All too often, we have had instances where things were approved by the FDA as being safe, then we find out later that they weren’t as safe as the company presented them to be in their studies. Or even more pathetic, we find out about cover ups from people who didn’t want to get sued. In my studies of environmental science in college, I know all too well about allowable limits of toxins. I’m not an anarchist by any means, but until someone not involved in the government, a chemical company, or a company that makes these questionable substances that are in our food supply and beauty products, can show me good, solid, long-term scientific studies showing safety, then I don’t want to buy it.
I am thankful that my kids live in an environment where we don’t have to take someone’s word for it anymore. We can have access to studies and other reliable information in order to make better judgments about everything. Needless to say, there is plenty of bad information out there as well. I have seen websites and movies that are marketed to inform the public that are funded by questionable interests; usually big business. It takes diligence and discretion to take the time to weed through it and take responsibility for your own decisions instead of relying on mainstream media.
I encourage all of you to start somewhere. Try taking one ingredient that you are not familiar with and look it up. Have fun on your journey of discovery and instead of getting angry about it, turn it into something positive. Even if that just involves not putting it in your body anymore.
I believe that the majority of people want the same thing. They want to be able to live their lives with the freedom to be able to reach their full potential as human beings. They want to be able to spend their time doing the things that are the most important to them, even if at times they don’t realize what that is. When it comes to politics and religion, people often end up spending so much time and energy defending their position, and opposition, that they don’t realize that there is a lot of common ground between them. They absolutely refuse to see any!
There are fundamental differences between people and it’s a shame when people aren’t allowed to live their life without being judged or worse, ridiculed. If you just take a political example, I have friends that have adamantly chosen sides to the point where their “side” can do no wrong. They finger point as their political party dictates, often without even realizing they are doing it, and it ends up being hypocritical. (And I am talking on BOTH sides here!)
To me, politics and religion continually separate and divide people by making one person’s opinions – and I say that word very loosely – more important than anyone else’s. Most of the time, the sharing of these opinions turns into an “I’m right and you are wrong fight” and feelings get hurt. I think the reason for this is either that they are afraid that they HAVE been sold a political or religious load of you know what, or because they are so afraid that what they hold dear is going to be challenged that they go on the offensive. And now I see a new trend of supposedly enlightened people who are clearly on one of the “sides,” claiming they aren’t but still attacking the other.
I believe that if you are truly happy, you aren’t going to waste your time with useless bickering. And you certainly aren’t going to convert anyone who doesn’t want to be converted. Why do people waste their time and energy? If they would stop for a moment and find some common ground maybe we would have some political advancement and religious understanding. So here’s to REAL hope…
Have you ever had an ongoing issue with your child that you were having a hard time figuring out? Have you asked people’s opinions regarding your issue and none of their suggestions feel right? Have you spent time searching for information through books and other resources for ideas and even tried some of what was suggested and it still didn’t solve your problem? I have a feeling almost everyone can say yes to at least one of these questions. Have you considered that the reason you are not getting the answer that works for you is because you are looking for it outside of yourself?
The first thing you need to realize that you already know the answer to any of the challenges you are having with your child. You are the expert when it comes to your child. You just need to learn to get out of your own way. We tend to rely on experts with credentials way too much. While the experts can help you, make you see things from different perspectives and even offer solutions that may work, only you know if any of them is worth giving a try. Experts should never be overly relied on because you can end up ignoring your own intuition and when you do that, you risk losing your connection with your child. You let yourself become the parent that others give you the advice to be and not the parent you know your kids already need. Many of you will say “I don’t know what kind of parent my child needs right now.” I believe feeling that way only comes from fear. What you need to do at that point is to reconnect with your own voice and your own inner wisdom.
I found that the best and quickest way to reconnect with your inner wisdom is to take a few moments to write down questions you would ask an “expert” about the issue. Write your question down as completely as you can, read it to yourself, then think how you would answer the question as if someone else were asking you. Don’t filter what your response would be out of fear. Your only filter should be that of love. If your child is being particularly difficult, which may make this exercise harder for you, try closing your eyes and picturing a memory you have of when your child was very young, where you were having a great time, laughing and having fun. Then open your eyes and re-read your question. You may not get the entire solution at one sitting and that’s ok. You should at least have an idea of what to do just for today. The answers you give yourself may surprise you.
As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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