I wanted to give you all a follow up to the Learning freedom! post I had made a few months ago. That post was about our realizing that just because my husband has been playing guitar forever doesn’t meant he knew how to break down lessons for our fourteen year old. While our son is very self motivated, he also really enjoys one on one interaction when learning certain things. To read more about our decision to find him a guitar teacher and sign him up for lessons you can read my Learning freedom! post.
Our judgment and decision in getting the help we needed was right on! While I did have to remind him to practice at first, he seemed to be having no trouble at all picking it up. We had been secretly hoping that he'd get more excited and the reminders to practice would turn into just hearing him play.
And then it happened!! It started by him telling me that he had been learning a favorite song from one of his video games. Out of curiosity, I asked him if it was an assignment from his teacher or was it something he wanted to do on is own. It was so much of what he wanted to do on his own that he forgot all about what his teacher had asked him to practice! He came in the night before his lesson asking my husband for help with the song he was supposed to be working on.
We really knew that spark was lit when he came in with a fire in his eyes asking for his own acoustic guitar the next day! Since then he has gone to a month's more of lessons and we have decided that he is over that hump enough for my husband to take over instruction. In fact, he has been coming to ask him about things so often that he already spends more time having instruction from dad than he does with his teacher! That said we have decided that now is the time to pull him from lessons and let my husband totally take over.
Our son now has his own amp and effects. He has customized his guitar. He even grabbed my husband's 12-string and has been playing that. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't hear him practicing or learning something new.
We are so grateful to his teacher for filling in the gap that we needed filled for the time that we needed it. I am so glad that we tuned out certain vocal unschooling voices in the community that preach that we should just let him do it on his own. We knew better than to let this type of learning happen through osmosis! It just doesn't fit his learning style to do so. We saw that he had a natural ability and wanted to do everything we could to foster it. By recognizing that we could easily get him the help and resources he needed, we saved him from a lot of frustration.
The lesson in this is to recognize when you need help and know when to ask for the specific help you need. You don't have to sign up for a full program, curriculum or anything you don't see as a benefit but you never know what kind of help there is if you don't look for it.
I must also give huge props to our son's teacher, Byron Marks! If you are in the southern NH area, he teaches at Manchester Music Mill. The first lesson is free! Be sure to tell him I sent you!
As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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