Being a busy homeschooling mom of four kids, the question I get asked most often is how do I do it all. Most recently it was my friend Melanie who brought it up at our knitting day. I realized that when someone asks me that I always tell them the same thing: "One day at a time!" That's the simple answer. The real answer is a little more complicated.
As I have mentioned before, all of my kids are very, very different. My fourteen year old has had some strong interests that have been the same for a long time. He is very social, loves acting, Dungeons and Dragons, video games, anything Anime, including drawing, has an interest in Japanese culture, is learning to play guitar, reads a lot, loves learning about anything to do with history and science (which explains the steampunk fascination sparked by our attendance of Anime Boston this past year) and the list goes on but those have been his main focuses for a while. He really would love to travel and see some ancient historical sites someday.
My eleven year old loves seeing how things are made and has had me writing down his invention ideas in a journal. He is definitely a technology kid and likes coming up with ideas to solve problems. He is already better at navigating his computer than I am! He also loves making and altering recipes, has a fascination with geology and nature, loves online gaming with his friends and building with Legos.
My eight year old has a very vivid imagination. Just like his brothers, he also loves video games. His most recent fascination is watching YouTube videos people have made relating to the games he enjoys playing. He loves it so much that he asked for, and received, his own video camera for Christmas so he can record videos for his own YouTube channel. He also loves swimming, going to the beach and visiting with his friends.
My five year old has loved horses from the time she started speaking! She is also loves to dance, sing, paint, can hand sew already and loves being outside. The most recent things she has discovered is Minecraft and a love for anything zombie related!
These are my short lists of their interests and as you can see there isn't a lot overlap! Even though their personalities are just as different as their interests, they are very close to each other.
Logistically, as far as seeing that they can pursue their interests, I will admit it isn't always easy. For example, I can't always just jump in the car and drag all of the kids to go antique store, steampunk supply, treasure hunting with my oldest. There is a lot of compromise and working things out. Sometimes that has meant bringing one of the kids to a class somewhere and figuring out a way to entertain the other three while we wait. Sometimes it means that my husband and I need to split our efforts between the two of us. One of us goes one way on a Saturday with a kid or two and one of us goes the other. While most of our vacations have been taken together as a family, we have also planned trips where my husband took two of the kids to LegoLand in California or to New York City so they can get the most out of it. While we take it one day at a time, it takes some foresight and planning. We figure out what is best for us as a family as well as what best individually as we go along.
As you can see it's not an easy answer to a simple question! If you would like me to elaborate more about anything above, don't hesitate to ask. I have decided to make my next several blogs related to this topic. The other questions I have received have been about handling personality differences and how my husband and I manage to pursue our own interests as well. If there are any other questions, be sure to submit them!
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I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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