I started blogging over a year ago a little unsure of what I would blog about or where it would lead me. I had chosen the title “child-led parenting” because it really seemed to suit the kind of parent I have become over these past 14 years. Simply put, the kind of parent I am is the result of my children showing me the kind of parent I have needed to be for each one of them. I didn’t learn much from books, magazines, or other parents even; and especially not from my own parents. In fact, I learned more about how not to do things through those sources. It really wasn’t until I moved back to New England a couple of years ago that I have felt like I finally found my tribe of friends and other parents that I could not only relate to but I could learn from. So I chose the label that felt best at the time. For me, child-led described the type of parent I am perfectly. Or so I thought…
For some reason, out of pure curiosity, I decided to Google “child-led parenting” to see what kind of definitions other people use for the phrase. I was more than surprised. I read things like how so and so’s kids were bratty and spoiled because they were being raised with child-led parenting. I read so many more negative things, which I don’t care to rehash here, that it made me want to distance myself from the term.
I am not about pushing back against widely held beliefs, as you can tell by what I write about. I believe that I can best serve parents by sharing my experiences and perspectives. There are enough vocal people out there telling you what’s wrong with absolutely everything. It doesn’t feel good to me to be one of them. I would rather share what works and what feels right, and why.
It doesn’t matter that I believe if parents act like spoiled, bratty, selfish people then their kids will be that way. It doesn’t matter that I believe if parents do not show self-control, then their kids won’t either. No, what “I” believe doesn’t matter at all when it comes to labels. What matters is what people already believe. So I changed my title to “Intuitive Parenting Blog” because of what people choose to believe.
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As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon or directly on my website. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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This blog is a collection of thoughts, articles and perspectives I have at any one time. While I am pretty consistent in my beliefs, life changes and evolves along with experiences. You may feel a connection with me through my writing yet I never want any of my readers to misunderstand that the connection you feel is with a perspective I have shared and not me as a person. I am continually humbled that I am able to connect with my readers, and I hope to continue to be able to for many years to come, but it doesn't make us connected in any way beyond this. If you connect with what I write and know me as an acquaintance, this in no way reflects that I have any knowledge of you, your situation in life or that I am writing with you in mind. It is merely that I have shared a human experience that most likely very many others have had has well. This also goes for anything I post on my Twitter account, Facebook Page and Facebook personal page. I wanted to make this disclaimer as clear as possible so you know that any misunderstanding you choose to have is not my responsibility.