Sometimes the holidays make me a little jealous of people that have big families. I hear about people visiting grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, and I can't help but get a little bit sad for my kids because they don't have that. In fact, my kids never got a chance to meet my parents or grandparents, never mind spend any holidays with them. I also wonder how I could ever possibly make up for the fact that they don't have those type of extended family relationships.
I realize that I have to let go and know that since there's no bringing back the dead, although I know they are here in spirit, I have to accept that that's just how things are. It is when I let myself get out of alignment with that sort of acceptance, that I start to feel out of sorts. I find the best way to get back into the flow, and the feeling of how great things ARE for us, is to not only focus on today, but also plan for how I can make the holidays extra special for us every year.
In not so many years, the kids will be grown and will extend our family even more. There will come a day when we look back at how simple our holidays had been! In the meantime, I choose to focus on what we DO have. A very close knit family of 6 that has a lot going on during the holiday season. We will have a wonderful Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years, like we always do, that is focused on only the most important things in life: family and our extended "chosen family" of friends.
As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon or directly on my website. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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