Am I the only one that is turned off by the phrase “teaching tolerance”? Doesn’t that phrase suggest that you tolerate something you disagree with or think is wrong? The word acceptance, when it’s used in the context of accepting differences between people, isn’t much better. The word acceptance means that you can’t change it, as if you had a right to feel like you should in the first place. It also means that you believe something should be different than how it is, so you have to just accept that it can’t be the way you want it.
Is there ever a case where we need to teach tolerance or acceptance? Maybe… I lived in the South for over a decade and I can say that when it came to some of my religious neighbors, I had to learn to tolerate. I personally don’t care what a person chooses to believe or not believe but when they openly judge you for not being on the spiritual path they are on, and in front of your kids, which really pushes a button with me, then that was definitely a case where I had to learn to appreciate their passion and try to teach my kids the same.
I don’t think we should teach our kids to tolerate being treated badly. Nor should we teach them to negatively judge someone’s life path or choices as things they have to accept, as if that person’s choices have anything to do with them. Instead, I choose to educate my kids about the differences among people. I teach them the simple lessons of love as opposed to hate. I also teach them that even the people that do bad things need compassion because there is always a reason that someone does something bad and that they didn’t, or couldn’t, seek the help they needed when they should have. In doing so, I hope that they can appreciate uniqueness in not only others but in themselves as well.
As a Parent Coach and Mentor, my passion lies in empowering parents to make the best decisions they can for their children and their families as a whole. As a well-trained coach, I can be your facilitator and accountability partner for long-lasting, meaningful change that has a permanent, positive impact for your family. By focusing on the values that you hold most important in your life, I can help you create and maintain the type of parenting relationship you want to have with your children, now and into their adulthood.
I am a homeschooling mom of four children in Massachusetts. I am also the author of a book called The Herbal Beverage Book, which can be found on amazon. When not coaching, writing or spending time with the family, I enjoy Hayao Miyazaki films, new and classic Dr. Who episodes, anything related to American history and a great glass of mead.
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